Support `push_batch_with_filter` in LimitedBatchCoalescer / `FilterExec`

[Dandandan]

Is your feature request related to a problem or challenge?

Currently, the BatchCoalescer::push_batch is used for writing batches to a target batch size.

In of apache/arrow-rs#8951 we're writing a faster kernel for filtering that avoids creating small batches / copying the data once more.

Describe the solution you'd like

Use the API in filter / LimitedBatchCoalescer

Describe alternatives you've considered

No response

Additional context

6e1c407 has a PoC version

[alamb]

FWIW the API exitsts already in arrow-rs -- so we can hook it up before we roll out the arrow-rs optimized version